Showing posts with label Burlesque. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Burlesque. Show all posts

Sunday, September 1, 2013

"I didn't know you were planning a comeback."

It has been a few months since I have shared anything on this blog.  Most of the computers to which I have convenient access are technological dinosaurs, but I will just have to make the best of things, and a new purchase (see below) may help to alleviate some of those issues for me.

In the past few months, I have started a new job at a local hotel,
Lobby of the Fontainbleau Miami Beach Hotel
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bought a new telephone (a purchase that was long overdue),
A Telephone Switchboard
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and attended more burlesque shows than any two men rightly should.
Moulin Rouge (1952)
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My new schedule is from 11:00 PM to 7:00 AM Sunday through Thursday, so life has been pretty much turned upside down, but I enjoy the job, so it's worth it.  One of my biggest fears, however, is being thrown into a 120-period of darkness when Winter comes.  As the days will grow ever-shorter, I will be asleep during the few hours of daylight.  I will, of course, have the sunny dispositions of my guests to keep me buoyed.

I am looking forward to coordinating my blog, TumblrTwitter, and other social media accounts with the assistance of my new smart phone, and as Norma Desmond of 1950's Sunset Boulevard, I shall not be making a "comeback."  I hate that word... It's a return.

Hoping that all has been well with you, gentle reader.  Looking forward to sharing more with you soon.

Matthew Morse
09/01/2013

Monday, March 18, 2013

My Thoughts on Same-Sex Marriage

"Golden Wedding Rings on White Background"
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Photo Credit:  Petr Kratochvil
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If you had asked me twenty years ago what my thoughts were on same-sex marriage,  I might have said some things that were not particularly charitable toward the more than 11.7 million Americans who identify as LGBT.

I attended private Catholic schools from kindergarten through my senior year of high school, and my recollection of that time is that some people, including myself on occasion, would use the term "gay" as a slur.  Two particular students in the grade just above mine would use far more graphic terms.

The passage of time has resulted in some personal illumination, stemming from four specific sets of circumstances.

I was married to - and have long since been divorced from - a young woman who must not have been paying attention in her high school health classes, as I think she believed that AIDS was something that could be transmitted through casual contact.  Her particular brand of homophobia was one based on fear, whereas her father's stemmed more from contempt.  He was one of those "God made 'Adam and Eve,' not 'Adam and Steve'" types.  That expression has never seemed particularly inventive to me, especially not when he used it in reference to Jimmy Kimmel appearing in a dress on "Win Ben Stein's Money,"  and that he made the comment during a "meet the parents" dinner that my parents hosted.  Just as a matter of record, I should point out that his application of various "-isms" was not limited to sexuality.  For example, he also referred to people from the Middle East as "sand n*****s."
An Evening of Burlesque
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The next three ultimately tie together and are provided in a non-linear timeline.

One of my closest friends has an affinity for the LGBT community.  It was a topic that we did not discuss in as detailed a level as we should have, but I fully understood that it was important to her.  As she is someone whose opinions hold great value to me, I reconsidered my beliefs on an ongoing basis, ultimately coming to appreciate that love is love.

I have several friends in the burlesque community who are gay and lesbian.  These people have become very important in my life over the course of  the last few  years, and I want to extend to them every manner of respect that I can.  In many cases, to know the performers is to know their significant others as well, and I have had the fortune to get to know several of the couples on an actual first-name basis (as opposed to stage names).

Minnesotans United for All Families 2012 Yard Sign
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As much as I love my friends, however, the single biggest catalyst in re-framing my thought process has been the fact that I have a first cousin who is a lesbian.  She and her wife have been together for six years, first as girlfriends, then as engaged partners, spouses, and now... mothers!  I know  firsthand what it is like to be in an unsuccessful heterosexual marriage, and when I observe the love that my cousin and her wife have for each other and for their son, I can't possibly say that there is something "wrong" with them.  Love is love.  My failed marriage had legal recognition, while their successful one does not.  There are, in fact, 515 ways that their marriage does not have the same rights, so they have to go through legal avenues in advance to ensure, for example, such things as hospital visitation rights in the event that one of them should become ill.

Spurred on by my love and respect for my family members, my friends in the burlesque community, and countless individuals from throughout the state whom I shall never meet,  I chose to volunteer during the 2012 election cycle for a political action committee called Minnesotans United for All Families, working in opposition to the Minnesota Marriage Amendment:

Shall the Minnesota Constitution be amended to provide that only a union of one man and one woman shall be valid or recognized as a marriage in Minnesota?
I am proud to say that the organization's tireless efforts resulted in a victory, by a margin of 52.56% to 47.44%.

With Minnesota Vikings Punter Chris Kluwe
Photo Taken on Election Day - November 6, 2012
Although I used the term "LGBT" (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender) above, another more inclusive term might be "LGBTQIA," which the University of Missouri-Kansas City defines as "Lesbian, Gay, Genderqueer, Bisexual, Transgender, Transsexual, Queer, Questioning, Intersex, Ally, and Asexual."

I far prefer the term "ally" over "straight," simply because the latter term suggests to me that all other orientations deviate from a norm, that they are somehow less-than-straight, perhaps even "crooked."  I got to meet a famous ally last year on Election Day - Chris Kluwe, the punter for the Minnesota Vikings - who released a letter on September 7, 2012 indicating his support for same-sex marriage rights.

Representative Karen Clark (left) and
Senator Scott Dibble (right) on 02/27/2013
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This matter is being discussed in our State House once again.  In light of the Constitutional amendment measure having been defeated, chief Senate sponsor Scott Dibble and chief House sponsor Karen Clark (along with additional sponsors in each chamber) have launched an effort to legalize gay marriage in the State of Minnesota.  Several elected officials within the Republican Party have voiced their strong opposition to the matter, but Governor Mark Dayton (himself a Democrat) has voiced his support.

People are speaking against the motion with language highlighting tradition, religion, the need for children to have both a mother and a father, et cetera.

I am not a theologian, politician, lawyer, doctor, parent, or many other things; however, one thing that I am is a friend and a family member, and I want people who are close to me to be able to exercise the same rights and privileges that I can, and that their love can be recognized by the State of Minnesota.  Love is love.

I am apprehensive to allow comments on this entry, but I will trust that people will respect my opinion, even if they do not agree with it, and that individuals will not engage in hostile cross-chat with others.  Thanks in advance.

Tuesday, March 12, 2013

Enthusiasms. Enthusiasms. Enthusiasms.

"A Mermaid," by John William WaterhouseOil on Canvas, 1901
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Anyone who gets to know me for even a very short while will know that I have two big interests - mermaids and burlesque.  Some people don't fully understand either one of those, and it is not my goal today to explain or defend my pastimes, except to say that there is much more to me than any one facet might suggest.

For example, two of my other passions are wineries and stage theater, and my home state of Minnesota affords me a wealth of outlets in both cases.

In all of my pursuits, the key word is "community," as I try to be as involved  and encouraging as possible.  It is often the case that I will develop an online relationship with a person or a business long before meeting or patronizing them, and when the propitious moment finally arrives, they recognize me before I introduce myself.  That is always a heartwarming moment for me, as it is universally the case that people will express appreciation for my support.

Burlesque (2010)
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There is a fine line between enthusiasm and obsession though, and I do my level best to be on guard for signs of that within my own behavior.  When I recognize it in others, it makes me bristle and causes me a great level of personal discomfort.  I have two examples of this, one personal and one professional.

Long before creating my Facebook profile, I was well aware of one of my former classmates and his daily stream-of-consciousness posts, and how he allegedly put everyone into hysterics.  It was specifically because of him that I waited until October 5, 2010 to open a Facebook account, and soon after that, I began to see his daily posts on a mutual friend's wall.  Note well that "Michelle," as I call her (not her actual name), is a married woman, and that the "gentleman" in question is single.
My favorite drink is "Michelle-o shots."
"The Michelleminator" - my new name for Michelle as she blasts through the walls of unwanted carbs and calories.
My favorite band is Michilli Vanilli.
I would like to see The Simpson's version of Michelle sometime.
One time, Michelle expressed interest in going to the Maldives.  The response?  "Why do you want moldy olives?"  I was not amused.  It was as though she just couldn't have one thing for herself without his having to hijack it somehow.
Garvin Heights Vineyards LLC, Winona, Minnesota
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This involvement in Michelle's life seemingly never ended, and it actually compromised my ability to enjoy Facebook for a time, because I always found myself wanting to come to Michelle's defense - something which, I should add, she never asked me to do.  Although it was not finally my place to take on those concerns, it was nonetheless frustrating, as the whole thing reminded me of various incidents that ultimately led to the dissolution of my marriage.    Thankfully, that was not a concern for Michelle.   Since the former classmate was unreceptive to my uneasiness on this and several other matters, we are no longer Facebook friends, and in-person encounters at larger gatherings are brief and  forced.

Just as I know Michelle personally, we all "know" news anchors in some sense, given that they appear on our television screens, in our living rooms, every night.  Just as with the observations made about my friend, I witnessed something similar unfold on a local television journalist's Facebook profile.

Orpheum Theatre in Minneapolis, Minnesota
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One night, I was watching the news, and the anchor - let's call her Linda Belton -  captured my attention, so I opened Facebook to see if she had a fan page.  What I found instead was that she has a personal profile, on which hundreds of members of the public have become her "friends."  Scrolling through the past week of updates, I noticed that one person's name kept appearing over and over, and his writings seemed alternately strange and off-putting to me.
Hey, L-Bell.  You rocked the lodge tonight! 
Loved the earrings you had on tonight, L-Bell!
Rocking the lodge in a yellow blouse!  L-Bell:  an anchor with integrity.
Animotion (Performers of 1984's Obsession )
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Never having met Ms Belton in person, it seemed awkward to me to ask her to be my Facebook friend, and I knew that seeing these posts on an almost daily basis would cause no end to my chagrin.  It all became a moot point for Linda Belton after she accepted an opportunity in another market a few months ago, but the man continues to post similar comments on other broadcasters' walls, incessantly calling each one by some pet name that he has contrived.  Speaking very candidly, the guy creeps me out, and his demeanor reminds me very much of the faint memories that I have of the 1982 Morgan Fairchild movie The Seduction.  Thankfully, it is my understanding that the personalities and the stations are well aware of the situation.
The Seduction (1982)
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In closing, let me acknowledge the fact that it would be extremely easy to ignore comments of the sort that I describe above, to accept them as the input of troubled minds, or to consider them with the humor that so many of my peers do.  For me, however, it is just not that simple.  I see interest that becomes obsession and even harassment, and my natural inclination to help, deflect, re-direct, or deter comes into play.  This is further complicated by the fact that I detest cross-chat between commenters.  Apart from further taking the thread away from the original intent of the person who posted the update, cross-chat is completely pointless, unless the people involved stay on the thread and are committed to arguing with someone else.  Whenever I see a hijacked thread now,  my only options are to walk away and to communicate through behind-the-scenes channels.

We all see posts and comments that rub us the wrong way.  How do you handle them?  Do you let them bother you?  Do you say anything, or does it make you cringe when people cross-chat?

Please feel free to share your comments below.

Friday, March 8, 2013

Road Trip! Part 2 of 2

Note:  If you haven't yet read my entry about the first part of this trip, please be sure to do so.  Thanks!

Mermaid Ayla
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~Mermaid!~

My Mom and I finally got to the Radisson Hotel Duluth Harborview at about 2:30 PM.  Now, I have corresponded with dozens and dozens of mermaids online, seen a few of them at the Minnesota Renaissance Festival in 2012, and even talked with a couple of them on the telephone, but up until that point, I had never met a mermaid in person (or in mer-son, if you prefer).

We met Ayla (pronounced EYE-la) in her human form in the hotel lobby, from which she escorted us to the swimming pool area, where she made her transformation into the half-woman/ half-fish of folklore.  For the next two-and-a-half hours, she got in some practice swim time, interacted with the hotel guests and staff, and shared some of her time talking with me and my Mom.  She told me of the media coverage that she has garnered since I sent a Tweet to the local newspaper, the Duluth News-Tribune, including an interview with said newspaper; one of the local news stations; and the Twin Cities' own "On the Road" reporter, Jason Davis.  I am so glad to have been able to play some small role in launching her success, but believe me, I have no illusions:  apart from that Tweet, Ayla has done this all on her own.

You would think with all of that enthusiasm, I would have gotten a photo with her, but we didn't make  that happen.  Perhaps there will be a "next time" this summer, and maybe then, I can even make an arrangement with the Radisson to spend some time in the pool myself.

All good things must come to an end though, and as the clock approached 5:00 PM, Ayla indicated that she would be calling it a day.  When she got dressed, my Mom and I offered to take her out to dinner, either to the hotel's penthouse carousel restaurant - the JJ Astor Restaurant and Lounge, or to the Buffet at the Bear, i.e., the Black Bear Casino Resort.  Due to other plans, Ayla was unable to accept either of these offers, so we said "Goodbye" and walked floated back to the car.
Black Bear Casino Resort
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~Dinner!~

After we left the hotel, we were faced with the decision as to how best to budget our time.  A tentative plan had been to go to the Miller Hall Mall, but at that point, we decided that it simply would have meant the addition of unnecessary miles (and time), so we just drove the twenty miles to the casino.

When we got there, the line for the buffet was very long, and I was afraid that we would be standing and waiting for an incredible amount of time.  To my surprise and delight, everything whisked along quite rapidly, and before we knew it, we were seated.

My Dinner at The Buffet at the Bear on 12/10/2011
  Lamb, Duck, Shrimp Cocktail, Wild Rice Pilaf,
Roasted Baby Potatoes, and Salmon
Photo Credit:  Matthew Morse
Many years ago, this buffet was good, but it was by no means whatsoever great; however, somewhere in the interim, it became spectacular.  As you can see from the photo on the left, the selection on 12/10/2011 was just wonderful (in my opinion), and the evening of February 16 proved to be quite the same, including lamb chops and beef Wellington.  There were also steaks, barbecued ribs, a carving station, pretty much the whole nine.  Even though the casino is 18+, of course, the buffet is family-friendly, and there were several large groups with many children.

If it were closer, I would definitely go there more often, and I *highly* recommend it to anyone who is going to be going through the area!

After dinner, my Mom and I walked through the casino for a little while, until it was time for me to go.  When my Dad was alive, they would go to various casinos at least three times every month, but in the nine years since he died, that has just not been feasible.  My sister and brother-in-law have a variety of responsibilities, and I do not particularly like to gamble, so my mom's casino outings are limited to the monthly bus trip that includes her apartment complex and  three other senior citizen complexes in the area.  Because of "majority rule," they usually wind up going to a smaller, slower-paced venue, never opting for change.  This was the best of both worlds - my Mom got to gamble while I got to pursue other activities.
Zeitgeist Arts Center Lounge
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Photo Credit:  Jeff Frey 09/28/2009
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~Burlesque!~

Teattro Zuccone is a bit confusing at first, because there is SO much going on!  There is the Zinema 2, the Performance Theater, the Zeitgeist Arts CafĂ©, and the Atrium Lobby (pictured at right).  It was in that last space that the Four Seasons Masquerade Ball was scheduled to be held and where the Duluth Dolls were to perform.  This posed some complications, as one entire wall of the Atrium Lobby is glass - windows from which passersby can look in.  While burlesque is by no means "dirty," it is certainly not something that children should be seeing.  Eventually, one of the organizers started to cover the windows with paper.  A second complication was that, although the event was well-publicized and there were many people in the building, none of the patrons seemed to be there for the Ball.

As a three-piece ensemble played music, the members of the Duluth Dolls had discussions with a man who appeared to be the event promoter, and we were all given assurances that the show would go on.  As time ticked away, that afforded those of us who were there for the Ball to have to chance to talk with each other, as well as to get to meet and talk with the performers.  If there is one thing that I love, it is burlesque performer stage names, and the Duluth Dolls just underscored that:  Ella Jim (who had told me about the event), June LaPurr, Miss Creant, and Ruby Sparkles.  The troupe is larger, but I did not get a chance to talk with all of the performers, and some of them were not able to attend the event.

In the end, unfortunately, things just did not go as planned, and the promoter refunded everyone's money in full.  I am not at all disappointed though, because I got to meet some wonderful people and talk with them more as people than as performers.  Since I "like" their fan page on Facebook, I will be sure to keep myself advised of their upcoming performances.  Duluth might be a stretch, but if they come down to the Twin Cities again, I will definitely be at their show!

"Night Driving'
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~The Drive Home~

I left Duluth, stopped at Black Bear Casino Resort and picked up my Mom - who was kind enough to be playing at a machine right by the entrance, and got back on the road for what from there was the 120-mile drive home.  That drive at that time is a cake walk, in my opinion, as there is almost no traffic at all the entire time.  It had been a very long day though (and a late night on Friday as well), so I was getting very tired and was thankful to have my Mom's company.

In what was an otherwise perfect day, we unfortunately came across an accident at approximately 2:20 AM.  From what I have since been able to determine, it was a one-car accident.  The driver was heading southbound, and he reportedly crossed from the right lane of traffic to the left, into the shoulder, and then into the median, where he was ejected from his vehicle, as he was not wearing his seat belt.  Of course, the only thing that I knew at the time was that the emergency response was extensive, and that the numerous police cars and ambulances lit up the area brilliantly.  I do not know how  the driver ultimately fared.

Minnesota's Roads
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That got my attention, to say the very least.  For the rest of the drive home, I was hyper-vigilant, and we arrived without incident.  I sent a Tweet at 3:07 AM that read "Back home after 16.5 hours and 346 miles.  Lunch at the Little Mermaid Cafe, met a #mermaid, met some #burlesque performers.  Good day!"

~Epilogue~

I look forward to the next occasion where I can go to Duluth, Rochester, or some other city in Minnesota, Wisconsin, or Iowa and spend the day.  Maybe it won't be mermaids and burlesque next time.  Who knows what excitement the future holds?

Do you like to go on road trips?  What do you do?  Do you go alone or with friends?  Please feel free to share your comments below.